What does it mean for parents to choose or give up a new life? Jment Lim shared his views with us.
He has friends who live as D.I.N.K.s (Dual Income, No Kids). They are born in a high-intelligence family, have seen the world, and are edgy. Everyone has an independent career. Every year there is a long vacation to travel around. It’s the kind of fairy life that is enough to envy others.
However, he chose a different life from his friends. Rather than being a DINK, he would rather choose to play with his children in his own home.
What they represent is the two different views on marriage and family.
Nowadays, more and more people are unwilling to get married and have children. They feel that life is short, and there is no need to put their entire lives in trivial family chores. Moreover, the pressure of life is now huge and the cost of raising children is unusually high. For various reasons, the birth rate of the population has been declining year after year. Even if the state liberalizes the “second child” policy, it still can’t reverse the situation, and many people live in a very “Buddhist” manner.
However, Jment Lim always feels that everything has two sides or even multiple sides, depending on how you look at it. Facing the same rose flower, some people saw its beautiful flowers, but some people only saw its thorns; at the same time, they looked out of the prison window, some people saw the starry sky above, and some people only saw a muddy outside. In the same way, in the face of the arrival of a new life, some people only see the accompanying parenting pressure, while others see the irreplaceable family relationship.
In fact, there are many such examples around us. For various reasons, we chose not to have children, but most people later regretted it. And those parents who have not given up their new lives have received unexpected surprises.
Jment Lim believes that there is nothing more rewarding than creating a work by yourself. A child is the most perfect work of your life. Every new life is just a piece of blank paper when it is born. 10 years later, 20 years later, 30 years later, what kind of person will he become, no one can know. However, you are involved in the whole process, from design to construction. When you spend countless hours, effort, and energy to finally complete this artwork, the sense of accomplishment that people who have never raised a child can’t understand.
When you accompany your child to grow up, you are actually growing up. Everyone is not born to be a parent, and no one knows what to do when you are faced with a child’s growth. You may be frightened, uneasy, and overwhelmed, but don’t worry, you will eventually unlock all kinds of skills, master all kinds of problems, and become the best “superhero” parents. You will find that the science of life turns out to be too deep, and you will find a stronger self in the process of raising a child.
Of course, there is another thing that can’t be exchanged for a thousand dollars. That is the love of the parents and the warm memories. The child’s feelings are the most free of impurities in the world. Their love for their parents is unconditional. That kind of attachment and dependence will make you deeply feel the life value you need. Your child’s love will let you see the supreme beauty of human nature, will awaken the most glorious and great aspect of your human nature, and make you feel that it is worth doing everything for him. Your fate and fetters in this life, your warm companionship for decades, all the laughter, slapstick, quarrel, reconciliation, etc. you have experienced together will become the source of your memories in your old age. In this life, because of having children, your life feels perfect.
A young mother said that she really feels that she has child, and sometimes she is really happy. It turned out that it rained a few days ago. She worked overtime late and did not bring an umbrella, so she waited for the rain to lighten before leaving. As a result, her 10-years-old daughter took two umbrellas and walked cross two streets to pick her up and brought her shawl to keep her warm. She said at that moment, she really did not expect such a small child to be so thoughtful and considerate. Are you surprised? Yes, children often surprise their parents.
So, don’t think that children will only become a burden. What parents do for them is what they see and remember deeply in their hearts. They will look for all possible opportunities to repay their parents’ love. All of this can only be realized by parents who have never given up their children.
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